Thursday, March 29, 2012

So much inspiration, so little time

I'm not a big fan of recreating the proverbial wheel. Especially if someone else has been terrifically brilliant. So I go looking for inspiration, and I am very rarely disappointed. The problem is that--like with so many other things--there really can be too much of a good thing. 

Sometimes I wonder how I managed before Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest ... but then I remember my Pollyanna sees opportunity in, well, nearly everything.
http://www.thegreeneve.com/2011/06/dose-of-inspiration.html

When I kept the commitment to myself to start this project, I really did worry if I would have enough things to write about. At least, enough things of significance to write about. Or, more accurately, enough topics other people would think significant enough to read. Lately, I've noticed I make mental notes--gee, that photo or that interaction would be a great blog topic. And I have a space staked out in Evernote to corral them all. The Idea Bucket doth indeed runneth over. 

But back to my point about too much of a good thing: I've been spinning wheels lately, not quite sure where to start. Thinking about the right angle to approach a topic from. Deciding how to put down my thoughts in a coherent manner. Finding an appropriate photo or image. Catching myself editing a post I haven't even written yet. And then realizing another day has passed and there are more ideas flooding aforementioned Idea Bucket. 

Time to give myself permission to stop over-thinking things and just do. 

Ta-da. 

To-done. 

More to come ...

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Spring cleaning infection

It happens annually. About this time. The overwhelming urge to purge, arrange, organize, clean. 

via Pinterest

This year, the spring cleaning virus has infected my diet as well. It's time to get serious about my health, my weight, my attitude and relationship with food. Out with the bad'uns. Time to make more room for the good stuff. 

For further inspiration, I reviewed my 2012 Counting list (see under "healthy habits" and "accomplishment--permission to abandon old stuff"). Yup. Time for a little more focused, and tangible discipline. 

Who's with me?

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Speed limit

So far, 2012 has been … in a word: busy.

Things are moving and shaking. I’m spinning a lot of project plates just now, both on the work side and the personal side. I’m certainly not bored. Good grief, I have no time to be. And that’s great!
Busy is good. But some days, “busy” is a four-letter word.

As I age, I’m coming to know myself. I only have so much energy, and that ebbs and flows. Certain things charge me up, and those waves run high, fast, and strong. And yet I know I have to be careful, because I can only keep up the pace for so long. I’ve begun to learn my pattern, and I can feel when my endurance is starting to fade. I get wobbly; I start missing details and my attention span snaps.

If I’m paying attention, and I catch it quick enough, I can avert total disaster. Which makes charging the batteries that much easier and quicker. If I don’t catch it quick enough, those waves I’m riding start to crash. And I end up in a puddle. And it’s not always pretty. I don’t like puddling—because it usually means something gets mucked up while I’m recharging and recovering.

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Mario Andretti is credited with saying, "If everything's under control, you aren't going fast enough."



My disclaimer: There's a speed limit. And the flashing red & blue will graciously remind you what it is. Pay attention; don't crash the wall. It wins.
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Smack. The wall hit me this time. Hard. So much for thinking I had another week or two to slow down.

My Pollyanna needs a vacation. And the rest of me needs a nap.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Breathe. Breathe. Just breathe.

I have a wonderful collection of generous, brilliant friends. Recently, one of them shared an observation about 3 year olds and time-outs, here.
How fast is Warp 9? What speed comes after that? Whatever speed that is, for about the last 6 months, things in my world have been rocketing along at *that* speed. I've been struggling ... surfing the wave between excitement about change and projects moving forward and the associated overwhelm of managing a boatload of moving parts. Mario Andretti is credited with saying, "if everything's under control, you're not going fast enough." I am SO going fast enough.
I acknowledge and own that I'm naturally hard-wired to be a "super-achiever." At the same time, I'm a firm believer that all you can do is all you can do, and that is all. you. can. do. Some days "all" means more than others. I'm pretty sure I've hit the red-line limit of more. I think I need one of Laura's time outs.
Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. And let the inner, calm adult take the lead.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Four-eyes


This puzzle by Jan van Haasteren was a gift from one family member to another for Christmas 2011. Last week we made a bit of family night of it--dinner and a puzzle. It's been a while since we've done anything like this. And I had a blast.  


As you can see, there's a lot going on here. As with any puzzle, sometimes you have to check the back of the pieces ... to be sure they fit. 


After mom fit these two together (and was proud of herself for making a match!) I just happened to look at what she'd connected. 


Um. A for effort, momma. {giggle} But not quite. {giggle} Try again. 

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It strikes me this is a good analogy for life. There's a lot going on. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if things fit. And, pieces that seem to fit may not create the right picture. Double-check. If necessary, get someone else to look, too. And take pictures! The best memories are made of simple moments.   :)

Monday, January 16, 2012

More redneck lawn art

Two of my fabulous friends and I started a blog to help keep us [better] connected across the miles that separate us. My post this week is about redneck lawn art. I had a pleasant little promenade down memory lane browsing through my archived photos of Ferdinand, the old farm truck. Here are a few more of my favorite snaps: 


"I'm ready for my close-up"

the neighbor's cows are fascinated with him too ... 

this one gives me the impression Ferdie has a runny nose

I love the way the wheel turned out in this pic

spidey's web just about makes the perfect frame...

Sunday, January 1, 2012

To count, or not to count. *That* is the question ...

Last year about this time, I sat contemplating whether or not I was going to set New Years Resolutions. What I ended up with was my 20-11 List: twenty things I wanted more of, and eleven things I wanted less of. A smart list, if I say it myself, and reviewing it throughout the year, one that helped me keep the important things important. 


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I suppose I've always smelled faintly of chlorine. I learned to swim when I was four, and joined the swim team at seven. I swam competitively for 10 years, retiring from racing after high school. And I've managed to stay in the pool since. 


The difference between my workouts then and now is counting. When you're prepping for the next meet, yardage is important. When you're following the black line on the bottom of the pool to just stay in shape, yardage isn't as important as whether or not you're hitting your training heart rate. Some days I count laps, some days I don't. I find I'm more motivated, and feel better about my workout, on the days I count. There's a greater sense of accomplishment when I *know* I've put in a mile, instead of guesstimating I have done. Apparently, Coach, that training is a hard habit to break!


It dawned on me a couple days before Christmas that my morning workout is a good analogy for the rest of my life. I'm more motivated, and pay better attention when I'm counting. And I definitely don't pay as much attention to the stuff I don't count. 
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So here's my 2012 List: Things to count. And not to count.


Count
Expressing gratitude
-       Acknowledging, in the moment, when someone does something I appreciate
-       Saying “please” and “thank you”
Precious face-time with my family and friends
-       Family dinners
-       Inside jokes
-       Crazy capers from which legend is borne
-       Puppy kisses
-       See also “celebrations,” “laughter, “gratitude”
Snail mail
-       Sent … being tangible with family and friends across the miles
-       Received … that isn’t a solicitation or a bill!
Healthy habits
-       Calories burned
-       Miles swum
-       Walks with friends
-       Walks with the 4-leggeds
-       See also “laughter”
-       Mental health breaks: see also “moto,” “face-time”
Accomplishment
-       Finished projects
-       Good books
-       Permission to abandon old stuff
Celebrations
-       High fives
-       Happy dances
-       See also “face-time”
Laughter
-       Giggles
-       Chortles
-       Guffaws
-       Snorts!
Moto rides!!!
-       Camping trips
-       Wandering to nowhere particular
-       See also “healthy habits”
Photo ops
-       Sunrises, sunsets
-       Ocean, mountains, rivers, valleys
-       Dogs, cats, kids, cows
-       Face-time with friends
-       Celebrations, accomplishment
-       Moments that memories are made of (and legend, too)


Not Count
The number of times it is “my turn” to talk
When a friend has the floor … be still, and listen between the words (it’s what I hope they’d do for me)
When I don’t get my own way
In 5 years, will it really be important anyway?
Being right
Quarreling takes too much energy, and there never are any real winners
Minor personal inconvenience
Especially if it’s while being of service to someone
Unanticipated change in plans
Often, the best adventures are unplanned. Definitely don’t count if it’s family/friends changing it up.
How often I’m sent “up over” or “down under”
Being the young bendy one in the family means I’m climbing the ladder or crawling under the house to do…something I’d probably rather not. But, it’s precious time and relationship maintenance with my old people I wouldn’t trade for anything. Count under “face-time” and “accomplishment.”
Rainy days
It’s Oregon after all. It rains here. But it means fabulous green stuff and gorgeous blooming things.

* In no particular order
** Subject to change as I think of things to add

Well, hello 2012!

New Years Day toast. Courtesy of Martinellis.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Puzzle Perfect


It was my first “grown up” two-week vacation, and I was staying with my very best friend. In London. It was the first time my travel required a passport! My flight was scheduled for Sept 12, 2001, and for obvious reasons, my whole itinerary was pushed back two weeks. But I did go, and I wouldn’t trade that trip for anything. It was the first time I’d seen my sister-friend in a few years, and we made the most it. Proper English tea. A weekend in Paris. Cheese and wine in a French museum followed by the most amazing Monet. The first time I’ve been moved to tears by art. A beyond-words lovely day in Bath (no small thing for a Jane Austen fan). We had SUCH an adventure. So many new experiences. So much time together, celebrating the moment and imprinting the memories.
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For several summers, I've been part of my friend's hot air balloon crew. This year, he started teaching me to fly. No one in this season of my life knows  I've wanted to fly since I was 6 years old. Growing up, I dreamed of being a Navy pilot. I wanted so badly to fly aircraft off carriers. My junior year of high school, I started gathering the requisite recommendations for Annapolis. That summer, several family circumstances shifted, and I readjusted my college/career plans. These many years later, to be learning to fly ... I’m not sure there are words.
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I'm certain Andrea didn’t know why that holiday and hot air balloons are so meaningful to me when she picked out a seemingly innocent Christmas present. It's really not important. What matters is she listens between the words found a gift with meaning across several seasons of my life. She must have bribed the keeper of my sentimental bits. In any case, I couldn't have picked anything more perfect.



My heart is full. 


Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Ode to popcorn and marshmellows


O popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
you are so very tasty.
In winter time the corn is popped,
The bowl it's filled up, it's topped.
O popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
you are so very tasty.


Oh popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
You are a treat most loved.
Marshmallows melted down just right.
Such a tempting sight. Delight!
Oh popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
You are a treat most loved!

Oh popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
First batch wasn't big enough
Too bad, but other stuff
Got in the way ... gee, that's rough.
Oh popcorn ball, oh popcorn ball,
Another batch I'll make tomorrow.

Thursday, December 8, 2011

It's the most wonderful time of the year ...

Truly.  I love the Christmas season.

I love the twinkle of lights, the comforting smell of home made cookies, cinnamon and fresh-cut tree, and the tradition of cozy evenings tucked up with family, quoting our favorite Christmas movies like The Christmas Story, White Christmas, the Grinch, and all the other seasonal staples.

I love that shopping is sanctioned. But mostly, I love that giving, in whatever price range, is not viewed as gratuitous extravagance. Speaking of, I'm grateful for the ultimate gift Christ paid on the cross. A marvelous gift indeed.

On the flip side, patience, in the face of presents, is not a virtue. Giving, not getting.

I suck at waiting a specific day to give said gifts. Which is why Christmas lasts all December in my world. Not so friendly to my pocket book, but, that's why we work hard, right? I do my part to support the local economy.

Last weekend, my family and I went exploring (shopping trip with no particular destination), and found the Christmas Barn in Shedd. It's literally a barn--stuffed to the rafters with fun, creative decorations like those in the pictures.


Yes, I did purchase a few things. Yes, those gifts have already been given, loved, and are now on display for enjoyment this year.

One of my favorite pieces of decoration is in the photo to the left. A Styrofoam ball, covered with scraps of sheet music, in a classic sorbet dish. The dish was $5, but I'm sure you could find it less expensive elsewhere. A candy dish could do just as well. Styrofoam ball, what, $1? Old sheet music could be found at nearly any garage sale or flea market. Cheap (but not tacky!), easy (and glue is involved, how great is that?) done.

Where do you find holiday inspiration?


Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Shirk-um-stances Rerun


Last week, I noticed the iris on the north end of the house is trying to bloom.  In December.  I mused about boundaries, limiting influences, and living out one's assigned purpose. Here are my first take-away nuggets:

ignore the circumstances—do what you do
The iris is seemingly shirking its circumstances. It's not allowing boundaries (the blooming season) imposed by some outside force (time of year/weather) to shift its focus from its core function: to bloom. It might not be quite the right time, but that iris is ready! And in the meantime, it’s producing a little unexpected joy.

change is not an option
In some fashion or another, and whether we choose to accept it or not, we must change daily. On the micro level, our skin cells regenerate. Hair grows. We age. Life happens. If we only operate within pre-defined boundaries, we risk missing great adventure.

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Lately I've been working on our organizational 3 year strategic plan. This exercise has forced me to be more objective and view it from the outside-- the good, bad, and ugly—and be honest about what can be changed and what must be managed.  And I’m seeing two trends. We have some areas that, as the proverbial quip goes, “aren’t broken.” Yet I’m also seeing huge areas of opportunity. And in those areas of opportunity, we need to accelerate embracing the new way of doing things, even as we design on the fly. We need to start blooming now, or we may just miss it altogether.

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It’s unexpected to see this determined little iris in the midst of Christmas cheer. But just because something is unexpected, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be celebrated. 

Friday, December 2, 2011

Circumstances. Shirk-um-stances.

The iris on the north end of the house is a reblooming iris: normally it blooms once in early spring and once in later summer.
Today is the first of December. We've had several nights already with temperatures hovering around freezing. I'm pretty sure this flower missed the memo that it's now ... winter. Or, maybe it simply doesn't care about the calendar. Either way, it's defiantly blooming when conventional wisdom says it shouldn't.

An iris blooms, that its' job.

And this particular iris obviously takes it's job seriously. So seriously, it forgot to care about when. Boundaries can be useful, but they can also limit capacity. Because it forgot to watch the weather forecast, it will bloom three times this year instead of only two. When I took this picture, it struck me how productive I could be if I were a little more iris-like. If I were to pay less attention to circumstances and just go do what I'm good at doing ... I could have a longer Done list.

This morning's observation also has me thinking about how (and why) I sometimes let circumstances dictate the quantity of my accomplishment. I haven't come to any actionable conclusions ... yet ...but I'm definitely going to keep mulling this over!

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Raindrops on roses, and whiskers on kittens

You know what they say about the best laid intentions ... {sigh} ... today did NOT go as I had planned. But even so, it was a *great* day.

Even though it was derailed, well nearly from the beginning, as it unfolded, I decided to just roll with it. It may be cliche, but attitude really is everything. So, in spite of not accomplishing what I had thought I wanted to, turns out I couldn't have planned it better. What happened that I couldn't script was a day brimming with wonderful, from-the-bottom-of-the-gut-makes-your-cheeks-hurt giggling. Oh, and several new inside jokes with colleagues. These are a few of my favorite things.

Here are a few more:




Sunday, November 27, 2011

Family Bonding

My family has always bonded over manual labor. Not sure why, exactly; it's always been that way. It's something that just is... When I was little, it was never a question of "if" but rather "what" chore you were going to do. Although, I always had a choice. Did I want to clear the table or wipe the silverware? Did I want to dust or vacuum? Haul wood or ... well, you get the idea.

And a holiday weekend, with "daylight burning," is no exception.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Dripping

There are so many things worthy of mention on this, Thanksgiving Day.


Yet when I look out the window and see sunlit blue sky on a crisp, autumn day, it occurs to me the simple things are really the most important:
- Family that loves me without condition
- Close friends that support me, no matter the situation
- Four-leggeds that remind me there is joy and adventure in the most mundane tasks (even
taking out the trash)


I am thankful for God's provision and blessings. My cup truly runneth over.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Gratitutional

In keeping with the reflection theme, I revisited this list I started 2 years ago. At the time, I found myself struggling to not sprint my marathon ... to slow down enough to experience life as it happened instead of just rushing crazy mad from one thing straight to the next. It's too easy to let important things we know we ought to do fall by the wayside. Like telling someone when they do something we appreciate, for example. Life is too long not to appreciate the appreciable. And life is too short to live without an attitude of gratitude.

Among other things, I am thankful for...

... lazy evenings
with nothing planned but curling up on the couch with a movie or a good book.

... sunrises
no matter the size of the hairy beast you battled the day before, chances are pretty good it won't look so fierce in the brilliant light of a new day.

... a good book
a thick one with great characters and a believable plot; one you can get lost in on a rainy afternoon.

... rainy afternoons
to curl up with a fuzzy blanket, cup of hot chocolate, and, of course, a good book to get lost in.

... napping
'nough said

... old-fashioned letters
LOVE getting mail that isn't a bill or credit card solicitation. A hand-written note means the author really put some thought behind what they wanted to tell you. There's just no easy way to edit/copy/paste when composing a letter.

... puppy kisses
dogs don't care what you're wearing, if you're having a bad hair day, or what other people think; they love you simply because you're you, and you came home to them.

... blustery October "Winnie-the-Pooh" days
when it's still warm, but the wind is gusting just enough to whip the leaves around.

... heated seats
makes the early morning travel to practice so much more bearable.

... forgiveness
We're none of us perfect. We make mistakes, fall, pick ourselves up, hopefully learn something, and move on. I'm so thankful that God's grace flows freely and that He bears our burdens.

... kids
they're so innocent and full of awed wonder, not restricted by bias or tradition; they giggle at anything that strikes them funny, and they're generally dispositioned towards fun. They live life with gusto, totally spent at the end of each day. They don't sweat the small stuff, but find infinite joy in simply being alive.

... gray hair
it's genetic; a subtle reminder that some things just are outside your control. Ya gotta buckle up and hang on, because life is a wild ride. But instead of obsessing about trivial things, look at the big picture and concentrate on the stuff you CAN influence.

... grandparents
they keep family history, hope, and traditions alive. They tell you about all the crazy things your parents did when they were young. They're the hub that keeps everyone connected. I miss mine.

... moments
the stuff grand memories are made of.

... 2 am friends
they take your middle-of-the-night crisis calls and have your back, no explanations necessary. They walk beside you on the adventure through life's trials and triumphs, tolerate your foibles, laugh at your antics, understand the complexities of your character, and protect your vulnerable parts. AND, they claim you in public. :)

What would you add to the list?

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Rear view to the future

I participated in a MasterMind group in late 2009; the focus was productivity. At the time, I thought, “Wow. This is good stuff.” Our coach gave us practical strategies, and useful tips. She didn’t try to change our behavior(s), but instead had this way of asking [mostly] gentle questions that challenged our assumptions about why we function the way we do. I learned some things about myself that I already knew, but had forgotten. 

And I learned some things I didn't know. Now, nearly two years out, I’ve seen my productivity—or more accurately, how I discipline myself—increase. On reflection, I think my biggest take-away was that I gave myself permission to operate in just
one “life” and not try to maintain a work life and a private life. It’s all inter-connected.

One of the activities our awesome and fantastic coach (
Tara Rodden Robinson) gave us was the VIA Survey at www.authentichappiness.com. The outcome of the survey is a list of your top 25 Character Strengths. Here's my top 5:

1. Gratitude
You are aware of the good things that happen to you, and you never take them for granted. Your friends and family members know that you are a grateful person because you always take the time to express your thanks.

2. Spirituality, sense of purpose, and faith
You have strong and coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe. You know where you fit in the larger scheme. Your beliefs shape your actions and are a source of comfort to you.

3. Curiosity and interest in the world
You are curious about everything. You are always asking questions, and you find all subjects and topics fascinating. You like exploration and discovery.

4. Humor and playfulness
You like to laugh and tease. Bringing smiles to other people is important to you. You try to see the light side of all situations.

5. Appreciation of beauty and excellence
You notice and appreciate beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in all domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience.

I’ve taken it again—to see if anything has shifted in two years—and find my top 5 are consistent.

Sometimes it’s been in fits and starts, but I’ve found ways to incorporate more of each into every day. I’ve made an effort to tell more people more frequently when I appreciate something they do—and celebrate what they bring to my life (Gators to you, Conroy). I’ve grown in my faith; that affects the lens through which I view and interact with life in a positive way. I said “out loud” that I wanted to see more _____ (art, theatre, sunrises, random trips to nowhere), and my friends have obliged by helping me fill my social calendar. I’ve explored more and taken up new hobbies. I’ve laughed more. A lot more. I’ve stacked my “inner sanctum” with brilliant people who are smarter than me—makes me bring my “A” game.

The relevance here is that I’ve been spending some quality time working through the strategic planning process at work. This week has been about updating progress on goals from last year as the foundation for setting next year's goals. Since it’s all one life … it makes sense that I start doing that in the rest of my life, too. So, here’s part of my rear-view on last year(s) as I look forward to the opportunities of next year. 


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VIA Survey of Character Strengths
http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/default.aspx
 

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